Finding the Light After Yet Another Physical Setback

Life has a way of throwing curveballs, and for many, including myself, physical setbacks are among the most challenging obstacles to overcome. Whether it’s an injury, illness, or a chronic condition, the toll it takes on both body and mind can be immense. However, it’s important to remember that even in the darkest times, we can always find the light again.

25 Years ago I broke my back, had an anterior decompression, posterior fusion and years of pushing through physical pain and adjustment to life in a wheelchair. Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would someday be back in an operating theatre for another decompression and fusion to repair another fractured vertebrae and herniated discs! I mean, are you kidding me? Unfortunately over the past month that has been my reality and now I need to find the light again.

Here’s how I navigate through yet another physical setback, hoping to emerge stronger and more resilient.

Acknowledge Your Feelings

The first step in dealing with any setback is acknowledging your feelings – usually my most challenging step in the process! I can completely admit that I feel frustrated, disappointed, or even angry, either at different times of the day or on awful days, all of them at once. As a former occupational therapist (and patient!), I know that these feelings are normal. I also know that suppressing these emotions can lead to greater stress and prolong the healing process.

Give yourself permission to grieve the setback, no matter if time is of the essence due to work or family commitments. Just take the time to grieve! Remember to recognize that this is a part of your journey. Embracing your emotions can be a powerful catalyst for moving forward.

Reframe Your Mindset

While it’s easy to get caught up in the negatives, (oh boy and can I get caught up!), shifting your mindset can make a significant difference. Instead of viewing the setback as a defeat, see it as an opportunity for growth and learning.

The fact remains: You have two choices – give up or push through, that’s it. Those are the choices.

Dig deep and explore…What can this experience teach you? How can it make you stronger? By reframing the situation, you can find purpose and motivation to push through the difficult times. Don’t let the setback define you.

After my first accident as a young mom with two small kids, a husband and a supportive family, I wanted them to see someone who overcame adversity and who had the tenacity to push through. It made me stronger then and now, with my kids, my husband, my supportive family AND three beautiful grandchildren I want them to see it all over again. I don’t want them to think of me as a quitter or as someone who wallows in despair, claiming some kind of “victim” status.

Set Realistic Goals

After a physical setback, it’s crucial to set realistic and achievable goals. These goals should be specific, measurable, and tailored to your current abilities. Start small and gradually increase the difficulty as you progress. Celebrate each milestone, no matter how minor it may seems. This will not only boost your confidence but also provide a clear roadmap for recovery.

Be mindful of impatience. I’m certainly not the most patient person and therefore I can find myself at risk of overdoing things from time to time. Realistic goal setting and celebrating milestones allow me to combat my impatience and aids my recovery.

Lean on Your Support System

You don’t have to go through this alone. Lean on your support system, whether it’s family, friends, or support groups. Sharing your struggles and victories with others can provide comfort and encouragement. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Sometimes, just knowing that someone is there for you can make all the difference.

My support system’s belief in my resilience always reminds me of my own inner strength.

On the flip side…treat your support system as exactly that and not as if they should be at your every beck and call! Avoid taking all of your frustration out on them…in my opinion, it’s just cruel and unfair.

Focus on What You Can Control

Physical setbacks often come with a sense of helplessness, but it’s important to focus on what you can control. While you may not be able to change your physical condition overnight, you can control how you respond to it. Focus on maintaining a healthy diet, getting adequate rest, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. These small actions can have a big impact on your overall well-being.

Stay Active Within Your Limits

Physical activity is not only essential for your physical health but also for your mental well-being. Even if your mobility is limited, find ways to stay active within your limits. Gentle exercises, stretching, and even meditation can help improve your mood and keep you engaged. Consult with a healthcare professional to develop a safe and effective exercise plan tailored to your needs.

Practice Self-Compassion

It’s easy to be hard on yourself when faced with a setback, but self-compassion is crucial for healing. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend in a similar situation. Remind yourself that setbacks are a part of life and do not define your worth or potential.

Keep Your Eye on the Bigger Picture

Lastly, remember to keep your eye on the bigger picture. Setbacks are temporary, but the strength and resilience you build in overcoming them will last a lifetime. Every challenge you face is an opportunity to grow, learn, and become a better version of yourself.

Trust in your ability to find the light, even in the darkest of times.

Conclusion

Finding the light after yet another physical setback is no easy feat, but I firmly believe it is possible. By acknowledging your feelings, reframing your mindset, setting realistic goals, leaning on your support system, focusing on what you can control, staying active, practicing self-compassion, and keeping your eye on the bigger picture, you can navigate through the toughest of times and emerge stronger than ever.

Remember, every setback is a setup for a comeback.

Keep moving forward, and you will find the light again.